Just Say No!

After at least a week of saying “Yes!” perhaps it’s also time to start saying “NO!”

No can be so negative but sometimes it’s the best answer to allow you to hang onto your sanity!  Or to make progress toward your goals.  I will always encourage you to stretch – to do things that are a little scary or uncomfortable.  This is because typically these things only l-o-o-k scary but are actually a lot of fun once you break through.

But some things are scary for good reason.  They are better avoided – a stretch piece that is a huge stretch, a stretch piece with an unreasonable or unrealistic deadline, something you just really do not want to do (or don’t agree with doing), something that will just add the straw that broke the camel’s back to your schedule. 

Here are some things it might be helpful to say “NO!” to:

• Weddings – if you don’t like to be stressed, don’t book weddings!  Only do them if you feel confident – otherwise they will chip away at your confidence and possibly your self-esteem.

• Short notice gigs – if you don’t have regular practice time in on your repertoire, you will not be ready at the drop of a hat.  So don’t do that to yourself.  Only book gigs for which you can be confidently and competently prepared.
• Music you’re not interested in – now, I’m not saying don’t experience new things but this music is also typically music you don’t know (so you won’t have tricks up your sleeve for dealing with not being rock solid on the tunes).  Or it's music you haven’t worked with (so you’re likely not solid and confident).  And this is often coupled with short notice and/or weddings!
• Only playing for the cat and the curtains – Get over yourself!  No one plays perfectly and you never will either.  The only way to get better at playing for people is to do it.  You know – to practice doing it by doing it.  The longer you put it off, the more you tell yourself you’ll do it later, the harder it will get.  So get out there.

Say no to anything that will require more preparation than you will be able to devote.  If you are only able to practice 30 minutes a day, don’t even think you’ll be able to take on a challenge and succeed (Carol of the Bells from scratch in 2 weeks? Ha, don’t even).  You will be stressed and unprepared and miserable. 

Practice saying No at the right times so you are ready to say Yes as appropriate.  And if you’re knocking yourself down (over these or anything else) - Definitely Just Say No!