September 18, 2013
Hang out with people who play better than you do.
Every once in a while it is gratifying to be the most accomplished person in the room. But the good news that it doesn’t last! There is a lot of pressure on you when that happens. So, the remedy is to hang out with people who are more accomplished than you are – or as we say colloquially, people who are better than we are!
Those better players may be other harpers but it is also possible that they will be playing some other instrument. Either way, you always have a lot to learn, so get in there!
Why? Because research shows that hanging out and playing with people who are better than you are will raise your game and help you develop. Playing with them makes you be better because you have to work hard to try to keep up.
It can be daunting (trust me, I know!) but it can also be exhilarating and just plain fun! It is intimidating but if offered the opportunity, take it! Don’t let your insecurity get in your way. Don’t second guess yourself or fill yourself with fear. Take it as it comes, enjoy the time (it will be fleeting), and learn as much as you can from the experience. Use what you learn to make yourself better.
And when the day comes that you are the most accomplished person in the room, share with the same grace others have shown you – and make someone’s day!